Child sexual abuse is a “hidden” crime. There is no “profile” of an abuser, but there are signs that you can be aware of. Child sexual abuse can happen regardless of age, race or income.
- 1 of every 4 girls will be sexually assaulted before she is 18.
- 1 of every 6 boys will be sexually assaulted before he is 18.
- At least 80% of the time, children know the offenders, most often a trusted parent or caretaker.
Safe vs. Unsafe TouchingChild sexual abuse can take on many forms that range from verbal, non-physical abuse to forcible touching offenses. It can range from a single encounter by a stranger, to an occasional “confusing” relationship with someone they barely know, to years of ongoing abuse by a family member, to rape or exploitation.
By teaching body safety, you will not scare your child or make him or her afraid. You will be giving them the skills to stop unsafe touching. They will feel strong and in control knowing they can help and protect themselves.
Talking with your ChildrenYou can begin teaching body safety rules as soon as they can understand. Don’t wait for them to ask questions or until after something has happened.
- Talk about names for private body parts.
- Let them know that you are open to share with them.
- Play “what if” games.
- Be aware of adults or older kids that spend time with your children.
- Most touching is safe—some is not.
- Its not their fault if someone sexually abuses them.
- They should never keep secrets about touching.
- It’s never too late to tell.
- The have the right to say “NO”.
- Don’t panic.
- Believe your children.
- Make a report.
Help YourselfBeing a parent is not easy and it is okay to get help. If you feel troubled, lonely, inadequate as a parent, unable to cope, depressed, or overwhelmed you can get help. If you sometimes physically hurt your children, feel confused about your sexual feelings toward your children, or if you were mistreated as a child and are now repeating your past—please call. You may call the Tennessee Parent Help line at 1-800-356-6767 or the Child Advocacy Center at 931-438-3233.
How to Report AbuseThe Tennessee Department of Children’s Services is mandated by law to investigate reports of suspected child abuse and neglect. Immediately report your suspicions by calling:
Tennessee Child Abuse Hotline: 1-877-237-0004
You can reach the toll free number 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
You may also call:
Lincoln County Sheriff’s Department: 931-433-9821
Fayetteville City Police Department: 931-438-7771
Moore County Sheriff’s Department: 931-759-7323
Lewisburg Police Department: 931-359-4004
Marshall County Sheriff’s Department: 931-359-6122
Bedford County Sheriff’s Department: 931-684-3232
Shelbyville Police Department: 931-684-5811